Jurnal cristinaxxs, 17 Jan 24

From which POV; as a teacher with a student or vice versa? 

like, as a diet? tip: don't eat your teachers. cannibalism is frowned upon. glad i could help  

@gopher I'm the student. 

@kaylin thank you so much. i will make sure not to eat them. 

how old are you? i was 18 and had an inappropriate relationship with the gym teacher/football coach/ substitute but he was only 24 or 26. (i still prefer older men.) 

i'm 16 now. its not like hes a weirdo or anything. i just really love him. i think its becoming too much because my mood depends on him and if i speak to him etc. But he's probably around 25. 

ya try to develop a crush on someone else. give your thoughts and attention to someone else. i know that's hard. hopefully hes smart enough to not lose his career over you. this is bigger than you. also never depend on anyone else for a good mood. nobody deserves that kind of control over you.  

i so would but i go to a girls school which makes it hard. i know i shouldn't let him control my mood, but for someone reason he does. he's so sweet to me. but thank you, I'll try to think about someone else. 

Speak to another adult about this, maybe your mom iran aunt or another teacher. You are reaching out for help and now is a good time to get some in your environment. 

Oh fun times when I was in junior collee and had the major hots for my history instructor. He had groupies. I kindo f stalked him...kinda. It can be hard to let go.  

do u have disc? i can give decent advice idk 

I assume you are talking about an attachment you feel is too much? First of all, realize that this is pretty normal and not at all unusual or wrong at your age (16) as long as you have not physically acted on it. We used to call it a crush. It can be a wonderful way to gain personal insight into what traits you want in a man, and which you don't. This will come in handy as you mature and make life decisions about who you choose as a boyfriend or husband. In the meantime, you are already aware that you should not act on any emotions you have, which is good. You are already aware that it is intruding into your life more than you want, which is good. So you can be confident that you have what are called "Personal Boundaries" which will help you stay out of situations which could mean big trouble. To help you move back from this crush, you'll have to find other outlets for your energy and emotions. A boyfriend your own age is best, but if that's not in the cards, try helping at an animal shelter or daycare. Something that uses your emotions and your time.  

Here's another interesting perspective on "Crushes". Here in central Italy, they recognize this phase in mid-teens and actually have classes on it in school, to encourage innocent yet close friendships between boy teens and girl teens. They believe it is part of a natural development, and as a healthy relationship will help teens develop realistic and mature relationships as adults. I can't recall the exact name, but it is something like "Emotional Friendships".  

@pegster I'm not really allowed a boyfriend. I'm aware I shouldn't do anything about how I feel. But sometimes I cant concentrate because I am thinking about him and I look around the whole school for him. He even noticed I am upset and he's offered to talk to me on Wednesday at lunch. 

Men do prefer the direct approach. You could also talk to a school counselor. Your call.  

Most girls do have the one teacher they have a crush on but as long as you don't act on anything I think you will be fine.or try switching classes If you can't concentrate because of it talk with the counselor she or he will help you.