Jurnal puhpine, 10 Agu 14

I don't have much to add to what others have said. Just know that many of us have been in exactly your position. A few weeks ago when I was stuck, I asked myself whether this was all worth it. I didn't feel "terrible" before I lost the weight. I don't feel "amazing" just because I've lost some. I am proud of myself, but it is very much an ongoing effort that sometimes wears me down. On the other hand, I have learned to truly appreciate every treat, every simple meal that includes anything I don't normally eat. That is an achievement in and of itself. When you aren't tracking and just eat as you please, yeah, there's some freedom in that, but you don't really enjoy your food. Your husband sounds like a loving man who cares about you. The only reason my husband hasn't talked to me in such a way is because I keep everything on the down-low now. I don't mention my lifestyle change. I don't refuse meals. I don't exercise when he's around. He just assumes that I've incorporated it into my life and it's second nature, so life just goes on. I used to tell him after every weigh-in. Now I only tell him every few weeks when I hit a milestone. 

I believe that the weight loss journey I'm on now is not a win or lose battle, I believe it's a new way of life for me right now and in the future. I am no longer looking at it from a standpoint that I have a specific goal in mind, when my body gets to the correct weight for me (who I am, a 53 year old woman who used to do nothing physical at all) then it'll stop losing the weight. I am working out every day and following a meal plan that's allowed me to lose 15 lbs in 4 weeks, but that's only because I just started. The weight loss will slow down, but at that point I will have already made new healthier habits (and I'll continue to follow them). Change your lifestyle and do exercises that you enjoy! You'll have fun in the process and that's what life is all about. 

I believe what is important is what matters to you. It's for you to choose - we should be able to enjoy ourselves without additional stressing about eating/not eating. Whatever you choose make sure it's what you want. 

I believe your first step is a change in mindset. You start off talking about a fight. You shouldn't view it as a fight. Shifting your mindset to a lifestyle change may make your journey more pleasant. Make each of your goals, small attainable ones. Instead of making a goal of 20 kilos, start with 5 kilos. Once you reach the first 5, then set a goal of 5 more. This works for me because I don't feel like my goal is so far into the future, that I will give up before attaining it. Life should be about living and not constantly thinking about the scale. Live life to the fullest and eat what you like in moderation. Eat the recommended serving size and call it a day. Instead of 2000 calorie consumption, tone it down to 1500 instead. For me, this is enough food that I don't feel like I'm starved by the end of the day. God be with you through this journey. To Him be the glory for your victory! 

I saw a posting on diet and exercise recently and honestly I am not sure how scientific it was but it sounded about right to me. When we want to lose weight it IS about our eating and exercise but it's about 80% what we eat and 20% exercise. So, I can see with all your exercise that you are getting tired and psychologically thinking you should be seeing a huge return on the scale, but it may not be in proportion to your efforts since you gave a huge effort, but it's only about 20% of the losing weight equation. Just a thought - I agree with many of the others - you're tired, take a break, watch what you eat, but rest. 

I understand the frustration with feeling like you're expending enormous effort, and not seeing much result. I also understand being tired of fighting. But for me I have to ask which I'm more tired of, fighting my desire to eat too much (and too much stuff I know is not good for me) as well as my laziness, or am I more tired of not being able to do the activities I love to do because my body is too out of shape to do them and do them well? I'm more tired of not recognizing the person I see in the mirror than I am with fighting the habits that got me here. You have to look at what's important to you, whether it's how you look (which has never been a great motivator for me, but is for others,) not being able to do activities you used to enjoy, or if it's just a matter of needing to something healthier for yourself, and you have to decide which one you're more tired of. If you're more tired of the fight, and you're ok with that, then so be it. But if you're more tired of the other stuff, whatever motivates you the most, then don't give up the fight. You have support either way you go, because really, in the end, this fight is about you and what's important to you, not to anyone else. 

Ten eerste: ik ben onder de indruk van je 30 kilo gewichtsverlies. Wat zullen je gewrichten anders aanvoelen nu! En je past ook vast weer in de gangbare confectiematen, en dat is ook al een heel stuk makkelijker in het leven. Geniet van je winst! Verder vind ik het erg jammer dat je afvallen zo ervaart als een last. Dat had ik ook, en voor 'tussen de oren' ben ik erg geholpen door het lezen van Beyond Chocolate, een manier van tegen voedsel aankijken. En ik eet tegenwoordig anders; geen suiker en geen granen. Dus eigenlijk vrijwel geen kant-en-klaar voedsel, maar ik ben niet bang voor natuurlijke vetten als vet vlees, avocado's, kokosolie. Na een 'inwerkperiode' beschouw ik het nu niet meer als een taak, het is gewoon de manier waarop ik eet. Er is niets dat ik niet mág, er is wel wat ik niet wíl eten. Er zijn facebook groepen die 'No sugar, no grain' in de titel hebben, daar is veel info hierover te vinden. Tot slot: probeer iets te minderen met de cardio. Het lichaam is zo ingericht dat het steeds efficienter met duursport-activiteiten omgaat, en voor vrouwen geldt dat dubbel, vanwege de hormonen. Je valt er domweg niet meer door van af. Als je wilt (en het leuk vindt!), kan je beter wat gewichtstraining doen (benen, armen, romp) om je stofwisseling-in-rust iets omhoog te gooien. Of ga zwemmen. Sommige mensen vinden dat een stuk leuker dan gewichten. Nogmaals, ik hoop dat je genieten kunt van wat je nu (weer) kunt, en ik hoop dat je een vorm van eten zult vinden die voor jou werkt, wat niet aanvoelt als een dieet.